“If it cost you your peace, it is too expensive.”
Re-read that quote. Creating inner peace in your life is so important. For a long time, I never thought I could find peace within myself. When you deal with internal demons it can for sure eat you alive some days. We all have battles that go unseen so creating those safe spaces for yourself are very important when on the path to finding happiness. One thing I’ve been doing is asking myself more questions. Asking myself questions has helped me in so many ways. It's important because being self-aware of your own actions can do a lot for your mental and also create a better self-controlled environment. Here are some questions I ask myself daily.
Am I on my own path?
Sometimes we don’t realize that we are living in someone else’s shadow. Finding your own purpose and being able to know where you are headed is so important. Kid Cudi once said “Living life is a choice. Making a difference in someone else’s isn’t.” As much as we love to help others, be there for others, and sometimes live through others we have to understand we have our own life to live. Finding out what your own path is can be such a liberating journey. Write down new goals. Live out YOUR own dreams. Think about it this way: You are always one change away from a totally different life. No matter how small you think something is, it’s always deeper than the surface. Find your own path and own it!
How do I feel today?
This question I ask myself all the time. Its in our human nature to be emotional, to not be in the right headspace all the time. Being aware of your emotions are a great sign that you are focusing on your peace. We feel A LOT as humans and it is ay okay to feel whatever you feel. Our moods can definitely determine how much at peace we really are. When you start off the day upset or down, then that’s usually how your day will continue and vice versa. Write down how you are feeling. Write down why you feel that way. A lot of things have more connections to them than you think and when you are able to acknowledge and face those issues the more at peace you become with them.
How am I treating myself vs how I am treating others?
How you treat others is a reflection of how you treat yourself. Creating peace requires energy from not only being kind to yourself but also being kind to others. Watch closely for patterns on how you are treating people. Recently I’ve been watching what/how I speak with others. Even more I make sure I am giving myself that same respect. Sometimes we often project our feelings onto others without knowing. Consistently saying affirmations is not only good for yourself but also good for the soul. It reassures yourself and builds up confidence. Learn how you can be more compassionate. How can you make someone else's day? Call someone randomly and check up on them! Create those spaces for your loved ones.
Am I trying my best?
This is one of most important questions you can ask yourself. Are you doing your best? Your personal best? As long as you are have nothing to worry about! Being at peace with yourself requires you to feel good about yourself. If you have ever read The Four Agreements by Miguel Ruiz he has four simple rules to follow in order to live a more thoughtful life.
Be impeccable with your word.
Don't take anything personally.
Don't make assumptions.
Always do your best.
So the last rule cannot ever be done unless you follow the others. Doing your best doesn't mean you are perfect it just means that you are doing everything you can to strive for a better life. Ask yourself this: If I am not doing my personal best, then what am I doing?
What questions do you guys ask yourself everyday?