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It's not you, it's them: Signs that they're just not that into you.

Hey everyone!


So today's post I wanted to continue the discussion "It's not you, its me" which was a previous blog post (https://www.sunnydayzz.com/blog/it-s-not-you-its-me) I did about basically sharing my relationship status and why I choose to be single. But, have you ever felt that someone was just not interested in you? Like things were going good for a couple of days or weeks then suddenly, everything goes completely left? In the back of your mind you already seen this coming, maybe not, but either way, there are a lot of ways you can tell if someone isn't that into you.

"I'm Busy"

Listen, I know we all get overwhelmed by life sometimes with so many obligations but, people make time for the things they want. We all make time to hang out with friends, talk with family, get on social media, play the game, etc. If someone wants your presence to be known they will let you know. If someone's always "busy" then chances are you're not that important for them to make an effort. Don't waste your time on anyone who doesn't want to be around you. Find someone who is interested in you.

Not Getting 'Shown Off'

So if you're never meeting family or friends then maybe that's another sign someone isn't that into you. You should know who your significant other is surrounded around because they are important people to them. Don't be that 'little friend'. You should be acknowledged when meeting friends you should never feel uncomfortable. Also, when you guys go out is it always somewhere discrete? Do you guys stay in all the time? Granted, if they are a homebody they may not want to be around people which is cool. We all have a favorite restaurant, museum, store, etc. that we would like to share with someone else. If they are always out without you but wants to stay inside with you then RUN. . You should be shown off every now and then.

No Serious Topics

If you're trying to have serious conversations about relationships and they always change the topic then.... need I say more? This is literally a red flag dangling in front of your face. If they aren't trying to discuss where this relationship is going or anything in that nature then they aren't trying to build with YOU. Find someone who wants to grow with you.

If Their Character is Bad

"Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are." -John Wooden. There are plenty of ways to know a person's character. If they are always demeaning you, isn't respectful, has anger issues, and never takes accountability then you need to get out of dodge. It may not seem like a big issue now but it could eventually blow into a BIGGER issue that you don't need. Chances are if he doesn't respect other people then he won't respect you.

It's Never About You

If someone you're interested in never tries to get to know you and is always talking about themselves then they're solely focused on themselves. You should get with someone who is equally as interested in you as you are with them. You want to share your life as much as they share theirs.


These are just some signs that let you know if someone is into you or not. If you're the one that's sending someone off then take this advice: Be honest, you never want to string people along. Be mindful of others and their time as well. We've all wasted someones time before just as much as someone has wasted our time. Let's start being more authentic. xoxo

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